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A friend recently commented that because she was so exhausted, rather than going out on date night, she and her husband had dropped the kids off with her parents and gone home to sleep!
I know that two years of limited socialising and multiple other challenges and additional responsibility have left people tired and uninspired. I’d love to hear what date night ideas you have for weary parents on a limited budget.
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I love the idea of these books! For us, a date night is simply doing something that we have always loved to do but find it hard when we have our plus one.
An afternoon outing to our favourite adventure park with takeaway or drinks on the beach are always nice ideas to reconnect.
I agree that you have to make an effort to keep your marriage alive and exciting. Although sleep is a basic need, keeping your marriage intact is essential. Letting your marriage slip away by not giving it attention is never a good idea.
My husband and I actually bought a date idea book. It provided us with many out-of-the-box and mostly free date ideas similar to this one I found on Amazon: Ultimate Date Night: 52 Amazing Dates for Busy Couples
Some dates were designed for the night, but many could be planned throughout the day. Perhaps a Saturday morning date would be more convenient for some couples.
We enjoy hiking, cooking together with a nice bottle of wine, and even going t the grocery store on a Saturday night and then out for drinks afterward. These take minimal effort and are inexpensive ideas.
I hope your friend makes the time to cherish and build their marriage.
What a great question. It's so important to carve out that time for you and your partner, even if it is to just go home and relax. But it is fun to do something different!
We like to go for hikes or nighttime snowshoes in the woods. We also like to try different restaurants, even if it's just getting takeout and going to a park somewhere. Another idea is to go golfing or go to the driving range which is a little more budget friendly. Even just going for a drive to somewhere new can be a little adventure.
This is such a good question!
We have to work at being present in our marriages, and including regular date nights is so important to maintaining a healthy, engaged relationship.
We absolutely love The Adventure Challenge, Couples Edition. The book is a $50 purchase, but it is so worth it! Each adventure is sorted out by time, money needed, indoors/outdoors, messy/clean, you'll need to go shopping or you'll need some supplies, and indicates if you'll need a babysitter.
These things are all you know about the date, at the start. So depending on your mood, how much time you have, what time of day it is, etc., you pick an adventure that corresponds to those factors.
And then you scratch off the section of that date which says what you'll be doing! It's a surprise until you decide what kind of activity you want to do, then it tells you what to do!
As an example, one of the dates was free, could be done anytime of the day, and would take us 1-2 hours. Easy enough.
When we revealed the date, we had to go to a park and walk for 30 minutes. For the first 15 minutes of the walk, we had to hold hands and could not let go, for any reason.
Then we had to find a swingset and take turns pushing each other. The one pushing could talk about anything, the one swinging had to be silent, and vice versa. Five minutes each.
Afterwards, we talked about the silence and what it felt like. It was so enriching for both of us! We are deep thinkers and I never stop asking questions, about anything and everything. So for my husband to talk for 5 minutes, and I couldn't respond, it was challenging! But after the first 1-2 minutes, I tried to stop thinking my own thoughts and just listened to him. It was really enlightening.
There are a ton of ideas on various social media sites for date night ideas, but you can spend so much time scrolling through them, you lose time you could be spending on the actual date!
We have found this book to be the best option for us There are 50 different dates, so at one a week, you have almost a full year of unique ways to date your mate that you don't have to plan. We love it!