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Parenting is a wonderful journey. That is a fact. But, sometimes, the responsibilities are too overwhelming if you have 2 or more kids. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy being a mom to my 3 wonderful kids, but sometimes, I feel tired too, especially if my kids are jealous of each other.
Do you enjoy having 2 or more kids? How can you provide equal attention for all to avoid jealousy amongst them?
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I have 7 kids and I honestly found 2 to be the most challenging number. With two little ones, they were demanding of me all the time and seemed to always need me urgently for everything. As I had more children, the older ones became helpful and things got a whole lot easier. Now with 7, there is definitely a different dynamic when you have a 'group' and our household runs like a well-oiled machine. Each child knows what they need to do and everyone gets on and does it. There are older ones to lead the way in setting the example and younger ones follow along. I LOVE having a big family :)
I can't answer this question as a parent, but I can answer to as an observer. From what I have seen with friends who have more that 2 kids there is a whole different family dynamic. Not only is your time more divided, but each of your children's personalities are also going to influence your parenting methods and the way your children interact with each other. Families I know with 4 or more children seem to have an easier time than those with 3 children - maybe this is because of "middle child syndrome". In bigger families I think it is easier for everyone to be included and to have a playmate whereas when there are 3 children, there might be some exclusion.
I do think though that regardless of your family size, parenting does get easier as children get older, become more independent, and develop more interests outside of the house. Once children have friends and activities outside of the home, it is far easier for them to get along and it will give you some time to take a breath after the exhausting period of raising young children.
We are a new family to three (7,5, and 1). I always envisioned a large family, maybe even more than three kids, but now that we have two boys and one girl, I feel like our family is complete - and busy! My boys are still so young and their schedules are already crazy with activities and sports. I honestly can't imagine trying to juggle more than 4 schedules (to include our own as parents).
I do my best to give them all equal attention, especially the two older boys at the moment, and I think we can find a good mix. I'm fortunate to have family close by, so if one of us cannot attend something, I have a lot of helping hands to step in.
It's a lot, and it seems pretty wild right now, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I feel extremely blessed to have these kiddos and with lots of deep breaths and patience, it's going to be a fun ride!
I sometimes wished that I had more than 2 children. But after seeing how difficult it was for my one daughter to raise 3 kiddos, I changed my mind. I felt like I had it easy compared to them. It did seem a bit overwhelming at times. I know that they thought so too.
Two kids seemed like a breeze compared to 3 busy little ones.
However, now that they all are in school, the craziness has calmed down.
The kids play well together, and they can dress themselves and take care of basic needs. The ability to do for themselves (instead of mom having to help with every step of their life) has made the difference. Now the family seems like a bustling yet happy bunch who enjoy each other's company (yes, they still fight).
What a difference a few years make! So if your children are still small, I can definitely see why it is overwhelming and is pulling you in 3 directions at once.
I would be interested in hearing how other moms are making out. Good luck to you also.