Do you get blamed when you child gets hurt?

It's so hard when you feel this way or hear critical comments from others about our parenting. It sounds like you're doing a great job and these comments are about the other people's own vulnerabilities in this space.
I've found in the past that I have found myself to be so heightened to scanning peoples' faces and listening for criticism that when it came, I was able to confirm my own beliefs that I wasn't doing a great job as a parent. Of course, this wasn't true and it took me some time to take that breath when I did hear criticism and show confidence and just give all my attention to my child with hugs and kisses to help them through the pain/hurt while ignoring others around me.
Trust that you know your child best and that actually, some kids take more risks than others and that we can't catch them every time they fall, but we can protect and help them through their hurts every time.

I am so sorry you are feeling criticized. As the mum of an accident-prone little boy - I feel your pain. Are the people who are making you feel bad friends or family? Could you try telling them how you are feeling? Kids getting hurt is a natural part of them learning and growing and figuring out how to assess risks. Wrapping kids in cotton wool is never good for their development so scraped knees and bumped heads are just a part of normal childhood. I hope your support network can help reassure you that you are doing a good job so that the negative comments don't have such an impact. Good luck.

I am also a stay-at-home mom and I know I would feel the same way if someone were expressing these things. I'm assuming they are also not stay-at-home parents or have forgotten exactly how hard it is to be a parent of young kids.

I agree that being a parent is half making sure they stay safe and the other half letting them gain their independence. We fall into a groove in my house and my boys are always outside on their own, running around, playing sports, and making questionable decisions! I'd be lying if I said they never get hurt!

Those feelings are hard, and it's even worse if you dwell on them. I don't think that you're being unreasonable. But I do also think that being a parent comes with these hard feelings and learning how to move past them. You're the best parent for your kid and you know what is best for them. It's easier said than done to ignore those comments, but don't feel like you need to defend your parenting style. If you're happy, your kids are happy, and everyone is safe, that's all that matters.

As parents, most of us are naturally protective of our kids and feel awful when they get hurt. I can completely understand that you might feel as if people are criticising your parenting or accusing you of being negligent when they ask those kinds of questions.

The fact is that parenting is a juggling act between protecting your kids from harm and giving them the freedom to grow and develop their motor and cognitive skills. All kids have accidents when they slip or trip while playing or fooling around and even these are a part of the learning experience.

If your home is adequately baby-proofed and child friendly and you are around to check that no one is doing anything dangerous, then you are doing a good job. Try not to let other people's comments offend you. Even if we'd like to, we can't watch our kids every second of the day, and so what we do instead is equip them with the skills and competence they need to assess their risk and make good choices.

That would be hard always to feel like you are being blamed.

If you are keeping a watchful eye on your kids and they do get hurt, then you should not feel guilty. Kids get injured occasionally playing, especially when several kids are playing together.

I would think that after a while, your family would notice that you are a good mom by observing how you parent. They will be able to see with their own eyes that you watch them attentively, and soon the accusations should calm down.

Since your actions speak louder than words, you can prove to them that you are on top of things at home. Hopefully, they will start to calm down and respect you for your parenting skills.

Being a stay-at-home mom is hard. I wish you the best with your children and family.