How do I deal with caregiver burnout from raising kids with special needs?

I have two special needs kids under six. I’m reaching the end of my rope and struggling to get through life in general. I’m always exhausted and stressed.

I’m the primary caregiver, and I never expected having kids would take such an emotional and physical toll on me. The constant stress of taking care of a 5 year old who’s autistic and a 2 year old with Downs Syndrome is even putting a strain on my relationship with my husband, who is the only one who works to support us, after I had a long and successful career before having kids.

I have accepted the life that I have been handed, but honestly I have my own special needs when it comes to taking care of myself. How do I find time for myself? I’m looking for ways to make self-care a higher priority.