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Every teen has a different personality and matures at different rates. Do you think teens should “have” to learn to drive at a certain age? Or just whenever they are ready?
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I agree that every person should be treated as an individual and therefore some kids will be 'ready' to drive at different times to others. My only caution here is that I know of people who have never felt ready and therefore have never taken the step to get their license. If the 'not feeling ready' is about confidence, then it is an opportunity to take it slow and learn but i don't think it is a good idea to encourage avoiding a task or challenge because of a lack of confidence.
Also, learning to drive is as much about the teacher as it is about the student. If you feel you do not have the patience or you feel to anxious to take your child driving, perhaps its best to find a family or friend who can help out rather than avoiding letting the child drive. Best of luck.
Yes, you are right about teens having different time schedules for when they want to learn how to drive.
My youngest daughter could not wait to learn. She picked up this skill quickly and never had an accident or ticket (as far as I know!). We started teaching her as soon as she turned 16.
On the other hand, our oldest daughter was a bit more fearful and took her time learning how to drive. Once she passed her driver's test, she rarely got behind the wheel as she was scared. She had a hard time navigating and could not follow directions well. To this day, she is fearful of driving on highways.
It is kind of strange as she is an outgoing girl with very few fears. But driving was not a skill that she enjoyed. She did get in a few fender benders in the first few years of driving, so it is evident that she was not a natural driver.
So, these examples help to prove that your kids may be on different wavelengths when it comes to learning to drive. Good luck with this important step in your teen's life.
This is an interesting question. My teens had very different personalities and also different expectations when it came to driving. My daughter was extremely anxious about learning to drive, but once she mastered the process and gained some confidence on the road she was eager to get her license. In contrast, my son seems quite relaxed about the whole driving process, but does not feel that there is any rush for him to learn how to drive as we live in a relatively small university town and he can get around without needing to drive himself.
In answer to your question, I do think that the need for independence might drive the process of learning to drive, but there are also various factors that can inhibit this. I believe that on the one hand you should take your child's personality into account, you should not allow their fear or anxiety to indefinitely postpone them from gaining this useful skill.