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It is important that you talk to your daughter about periods and get her mentally ready for this physical change.
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My daughter is almost ten and we recently had 'the talk'. I found a great picture book that we read together which explained everything and then we talked about it after. Since then, I have made sure that I mention things about periods to her - for example I tell her when i am feeling a bit grumpy because my period just started. She openly asks questions and I love that she feels comfortable to do so.
I agree with Donna that 4th grade is a good time to start having these types of conversations, but I feel that it is never to early to begin with normalising our bodies and their various functions. We can do this by using the correct names for body parts, and by answering our children's questions with honest age-appropriate facts. Depending on how relaxed and open you are about your own menstruation, your daughter may already have noticed that you have period products in your home or that on certain days of the month you have cramps.
There are many wonderful books and online resources available that can help you to discuss puberty and it's accompanying body changes. Remember to emphasise to your daughters that we are all different and that these changes, including the start of periods, may happen at different times for different people. Don't forget to talk about the emotional aspect of puberty and the fact that experiencing a wide range of emotions is normal. If your daughter is quite young, break these conversations up into smaller parts so that she can think about what she has learned, and make sure that she knows that she can ask you any questions she might have without being embarrassed.
If you think that her period might be starting soon, you can take her shopping and discuss the various products available for her to use when the time comes. We have so many choices available - from menstrual cup and tampons, to sanitary towels (pads) and period panties. Let her know that women all have their own preferences and that she will find the product that works best for her. You can help her to prepare a small pack of products that she can take to school for when the day comes, so that she is not left unprepared.
Talking about ongoing development through puberty is so important, and I'm sure that this will be an ongoing discussion you have with your daughters as they get older.
As a school nurse and mother of 2 daughters, I think that 4th grade is an excellent time to begin to have "the talk". However, some girls may be early developers and need some basic information a bit earlier.
Even if your daughter has not begun to develop in 4th grade, her friends may be starting, so a parent-daughter discussion is a good idea. Her friends may be talking about bras and other girl-related puberty issues, and you don't want your daughter to feel out of the loop.
I had a book to give my girls to sit and go through with them. Then they kept it to digest on their own. We did this when they each were in 4th grade while camping while the rest of the family took a hike. One daughter wanted to know many details, while the other wanted the discussion to be over with quickly. They were so different in their response.
I used the Always Educational Materials from Proctor and Gamble for my growth and development talks as a school nurse, which is very helpful for parents and kids. Here is the link: https://always.com/en-us/puberty-education-programs-for-teachers-students-and-parents
Good luck, and I hope that it goes well. Once you open up this topic, you start an important dialog that will last for many years.