I caught my teen stealing money from my purse. What should I do?
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I’m so angry and disappointed after catching my 16-year-old son in my room stealing money. He has frequently been asking me for cash without giving any valid reasons for use. When I finally refused, he stormed off, only to find him taking some cash from my purse without asking. I didn’t allow him to keep what he took. He confessed that he’d done that occasionally, and I’m afraid that the lack of trust I feel can be destructive to our already rocky relationship. My son yelled at me, saying his father, whom I walked away from, wouldn’t refuse to give him anything he asked for. I’m upset and don’t want to lash out. Why would he do this after everything I’ve taught him? I’m even questioning my own abilities and wonder where I’ve gone wrong with my child now that theft is involved. ![]() |
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Yikes, that's tough. You both are dealing with a lot at present. I suggest that you try to take time to spend with your son to try and reconnect as best as you can. Is there anything that he enjoys that you two can do together? Go out to a favorite restaurant or a ballgame? I found with my children that the more they acted out, the more they needed me. Obviously, he is hurting in some way and lashing out at you. Also stealing money makes me wonder if there is a reason that he needs the cash. Is there a trusted adult that he relates to? My one daughter would not talk to me but she would open up to her grandmother. At least I knew that my daughter could go to my mother with her problems and that was somewhat reassuring. Professional help from the school, church, or private counselor may be necessary if you can not get through to your son. I wish you the best.
