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The teen years can be a whirlwind of new people in and out of your home, especially if your teen is sociable – but as your teens get older, you may also find yourself having to interact with their latest romantic interest. I know that many teens feel very intimidated when meeting their new boyfriend or girlfriend’s parents and family.
How do you go about making sure that your teenager’s boyfriend or girlfriend feels welcome in your home?
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We had many boyfriends come and go. For most of them, we had a good relationship. With a few, we even hung out with their families.
We were quite involved in our kids' sports, and since the boyfriends usually cheered on our girls, we typically sat with them or at least chatted with them for a bit. They ate meals with us and even went on weekend get-aways with us,
We never allowed the couples in the bedroom, so they were in our kitchen, front porch, or living room watching tv with us or just hanging out. We encouraged them to hang out at our house so we could keep an eye on things.
It all worked out well, and we enjoyed the boyfriends.
If going into your home seems a little intimidating for them, maybe you could do some meetups outside of the home. For example, if your child plays sports, invite them to watch with you. Or if you are all going to the park, invite them along.
At least in the beginning, getting together in a more neutral place may be more comfortable for them.
We have only very recently begun this experience as well. I think its always going to be a little bit awkward but we have done our best to be warm and interested in our son's new girlfriend. She is welcome to our house anything, but we also have some clear rules in place (no going into bedrooms and shutting the door). She is welcome to stay for dinner and we are always willing to drive her home if needed. The most difficult part has been trying to stop my son's siblings from teasing. We just keep reminding them that one day in the not too distant future, it will be them bringing a girlfriend or boyfriend home and to think about how they want to be treated when that time comes. Fun times ahead :)