I just wanted to get your feedback on the ideal age gap between your first and second child. I am 40 and my son is turning 9 this year. My husband and I are considering maybe having a second child. OR even considering adopting a child that’s a few years younger than our son.
Has anyone else experienced this? How long did you wait? Is it easier to get pregnant with a second child?
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My boyfriend and I aren't married and we got pregnant mid-pandemic. I'm 21, he's 30 and works full time so I never see him.
I think for a lot of younger moms who are struggling without childcare amid the childcare shortage in the pandemic, it is NOT the time to have another baby. I can barely keep my days straight as is. I can't even think about having another mouth to feed right now or temper to deal with or behavior to correct. My kids will probably be so far apart in age that my son will most likely be my next kid's babysitter lol.
There are so many different factors that go into it but considering that your son is a little older, he would probably welcome a new sibling a little easier. Whether you decide to conceive or adopt, you might consider sitting down with your son and even giving him a chance to offer some input into the decision. Who knows, maybe he would enjoy being included and feel like he should help with the extra responsibility.
My kids are 5 years apart and they are constantly on each other's heels. However, I have friends who also have kids who are 6 years apart and 4 years apart whose kids don't fight or squabble like mine do. So, I think it might really come down to the kid's personalities and how willing they are to get along.